As she points out : ““Same-sex marriage and parenting withholds either a mother or father from a child while telling him or her that it doesn’t matter. That it’s all the same. But it’s not,” she writes. “A lot of us, a lot of your kids, are hurting. My father’s absence created a huge hole in me, and I ached every day for a dad. I loved my mom’s partner, but another mom could never have replaced the father I lost.”
Her point is a valid one, albeit her opposition to same-sex marriage is not. The issue is the exact same one as the potential problems of children of single parents encounter – in many ways, a lack of a reference person of the other gender.
She is right in asserting that claiming “it doesn’t matter” is disingenuous, because it does matter and it does make a difference. Claiming it doesn’t, where children are concerned, is just basically sticking your head in the sand.
My point is that this variable shouldn’t be ignored.
Women of Grace. A South Carolina woman’s new essay about being raised by her lesbian mom contains a surprising revelation: she opposes marriage equality.